RSS

Category Archives: Healthy Family values

Your Attitude Can Make Or Break You

Your Attitude Can Make Or Break You

I can choose to control my attitude 

Life is a funny thing we all start out in this world with the same amount of time. We all start out as kids dreaming of what our life will be when we grow up and then one day we wake up and we are adults living a life that we worked hard to build, trauma steps in and we lose our loved ones you get the picture. Or we are living a life we just let happen! I have learned in my fifty-four years on this planet that our attitude is number one in how we interact with others i.e., animals and humans.  Set clear boundaries with others and when they cross the boundaries I set for myself talk to the person and try to create peace. If the other person wants no peace I walk away and dust off my feet as the bible states enjoy this life GOD has given me. Why? Life is too short to cry over something we can’t change. We can only change ourselves not other people including our children, step children, parents, neighbors etc. We are called to be peace makers but when people take advantage of us it is time to say enough is enough and speak up.  Saying goodbye to people we have had in our life for thirty or more years is not easy but boy is it better than enduring the continued abuse or taking advantage of us. I treat people how I want to be treated and if I do not receive back what I put in I know I am not important to the person. So as I stated above I pray for the person and I remove myself from their life.

I love to garden, if I keep putting poison on my plants they will wither and die. The same goes for us, if we keep letting someone hurt us physically or emotionally in any way the poison will destroy our destiny and joy.  After the semi-truck accident I survived I lost friends of over thirty years, not my choice their choice. Why? They did not behave in a way a friend should behave and I had to walk away. Was I hurt yes but today I can say thank GOD I had the courage to end the long time relationship as I am closer to Jesus and I will be much more careful who I let into my life again as a friend.

Melodydogsmay2014

Have you ever walked into a room with a person who is negative?

I swear you can feel the tension in the room and for me I just want out. I do not like being around negative people and I would much rather spend my time all alone in peace and quiet with Jesus Christ and the gifts he gave me my husband and animals than to spend time with a negative person. The negative person is not hating me they hate themselves and their energy is sucking energy out of me trying to help them. I pray for these people and I do my best to keep visits short. Why? Negative people destroy us positive people as they hate us.

attitude bad

Why do they hate us?

We are moving and dreaming and they are stuck. The next time you are with a negative person pray for them, try to have empathy and keep the session as short as possible. The other thing I do is bless them with whatever I can, food, help with a problem as the bible states we are to help one another, it takes Jesus Christ to be nice to a person who has intentionally hurt me. My flesh wants to get even return the pain, this is not what we are to do when we are children of Jesus Christ, we are to pray and give love to the hurting and lost as guess what? You may be the only light in this persons life. 


 

Think about your word as it is the only thing you have that is worth much today, treat others how you want to be treated

fakepeopleattitude

 

 

attitudetowardsyou

Remember you can choose to be happy or sad this is 100% in your control no matter what you are experiencing at this very moment in you life.

attitude

attitudeddd

DSC05589

Attitude1

 

Do you need prayer?

Select the 700 club as they have prayer warriors ready to pray with you for free, I know as in my darkest hours I called for prayer many times I am very grateful to these people at the end of the phone line. If you are tired of being in the same place you have been forever ask JESUS CHRIST to come into your life and make him your Lord and Savior. JESUS will help you learn how to enjoy your life and stop negative behaviors for you. GOD is not santa but he is our heavenly father in heaven and he has counted every hair on our heads. GOD has a bigger plan for your life than you do.

Bible Verses

A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones PROVERBS 17:22

Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body. Proverbs 16:24

I will serve the Lord my GOD, and he will bless my bread and my water and take sickness away from me. EXODUS 23:25

I will reverently fear and worship the LORD and turn (entirely) away from evil.  It shall be health to my nerves and sinews, and marrow and moistening to my bones. Proverbs 3:7-8

I will have balance in my life because GODs word states that if we are not well-balanced we open a door for Satan to come in and devour us. 1 PETER 5:8

GOD bless you and your family two and four-legged!

Melody

http://www.donkeywhisperer.com

https://donkeywhispererfarm.com/our-store/

http://www.youversion.com/mobile

https://www.facebook.com/Donkeywhisperer

 

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

Encourgagement


Howdy,

This is a beautiful maple tree on the Donkey Whisperer Farm, I hope you enjoy this tree as much as we do.

GOD is a faithful GOD we are given the strength to lean on GOD and hold tight to GOD but this takes diligence, prayer, reading the bible, being humble, listening to praise music, attending church, tithing, helping others. It seems GOD will use us to help others and the more we help others the more help will come our way.  GOD uses us to help others and this becomes more of a blessing for us than the person we helped, never forget that you and you alone have a special gift to help another living human or animal. 

Pain and trauma is not from GOD as we live in a fallen world we are not in heaven yet, I work at remembering that GOD can make life easier and GOD will restore everything stolen from our life. How do we know GOD is in control and still on the throne because we are children of GOD in Jesus Christ precious name.  GOD is a faithful GOD he restores everything in abundance stolen from us if we trust him.

Here is a beautiful video shared by Petra Christensen at Parelli showing regular people helping a whale this video made me cry as I love all the animals of the world that our father in heaven created with a special place for the whales as they are the most intriguing to me.  I have seen the whales in the Puget Sound while in a boat several times they are truly amazing.  

What if the people in the boat decided to not try to help the whale? What if they just rowed away?  Thank GOD they did the right thing and restored the whale to her life.  Amazing what people can do when they try.

Encouragement and comfort:

In the day of trouble he will  hide me in His shelter; in the secret place of His tent will he hide me; He will set me high upon a rock. Psalm 27:5

GOD will cover me with his wings; I will be safe in his care; his faithfulness will protect and defend me. I need not fear any dangers in the night or sudden attacks in the day.  Psalm 91:4-5

And this small temporary trouble I suffer will bring me tremendous eternal glory, much greater than the trouble.  For I fix my attention not on things that are seen but on things that are unseen.  What can be seen last only for a time, but what cannot be seen lasts forever.  Corinthians 4:17-18

I call out to GOD in Jesus Christ precious name, the GOD who holds me together.  He sends orders from Heaven and save me. GOD delivers generous love.  GOD delivers generous love, he makes good on his word.  Psalm 57:2-3

GOD bless you and your family two and four-legged!

Melody

http://www.donkeywhisperer.com

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Thank You To All The Care Takers (Angels) In The World


Howdy,

Seems like some days, weeks, months and even years can feel like a severe cold winter hard to get moving hard to stay motivated just want a warm blanket. Equine (horse, donkey, mule), cats, dogs really help me out with these seasons.  When I go to their barn and feed them, clean up, care, rub, talk to them they are always grateful to see me I work very hard to stay in their neutral emotional place just enjoying every day the best I can.  My cats and dogs are always in the house with me and they play a very important role in my recovery.

I  feel the need to say Thank You to all the care takers in the world they are in a very difficult job and it is really hard to work and care for a sick person.  Without these angels GOD has placed in the world, life would be impossible for all the sick people and I know first hand how important it is to feel loved and have people take care of me and my farm when I was physically incapacitated after the semi truck hit me. 

Do you know a human angel caring for a sick or hurting person or animal? Please pause a moment and say a little prayer for this person and if you can give them a thank you note or a day off to go to the movies with a friend.  A simple thank you can refill their gas tank in life and recharge their battery with the end result making the world a better place. 

Are you a caretaker?  Please consider allocating time for yourself and love yourself as no human understands you like you do.  I understand how hard this is but just like we must be planning for retirement we should also be planning for a healthy happy life.  If we are constantly pouring our heart and soul out to someone who is incapable of sharing good things with us we start to burn out and our life becomes too much work and not enough fun.  I have learned that having fun is not an option it is a necessity as I feel better when I get to do fun things with people around me who love me and appreciate me.  Sometimes we just have to contract some work out and if we look at it this way “I’m creating jobs and helping feed a family” and I get some time off life is a little more easier.  Perhaps you have a financial difficulty at this time I know as we had a very hard time after the semi truck accident bills came that we had no plan for.  I bartered with my angel and massage therapist and it was a win-win situation perhaps this can help you or your loved one bartering works.

 

My progress:

I am happy to say that I am moving forward just completed Physical Therapy after going consistently for nine months very difficult, two times a week.  I go to acupuncture once a month for immune system and the doctor visits are quiet again, thank GOD.  Now the hard part comes for me to go on my own to the gym and just do it, no physical therapist pushing me harder to be the best I can be!  I have good days and bad days still but the bad days are getting fewer and the good days are getting longer and for this I am grateful to GOD. 

I just keep on pushing forward and believing that GOD can heal everything and take the pain, I am happy to report the pain is much better now, suffer towards the end of the day and at night but most mornings are good.  I am very grateful for all of my blessings and for each and every one of the people GOD has placed in my life to help me heal most importantly my husband Scott.  I am grateful to GOD for all the people who pray for a complete healing and remove the pain so I can get well to help others navigate life.   I make my husband Scott take off on his Harley and get away as much as possible he comes home very relaxed and recharged.  We have to find that one thing that recharges our batteries in life otherwise we just sit in neutral in life and time keeps on moving on.

Do you have some great ideas for caretakers?

Please leave a comment and I will post so everyone can benefit!

GOD bless you and your family two and four legs!

Melody

GOD bless you and your family two and four legs!

http://donkeywhisperer.com

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Got Donkeys In Your Life?

Got Donkeys In Your Life?

Melody Kissing Rio

Donkeys Can Be Slow To respond, Slow To Move

“Donkeys need us humans to become a person with a plan, most importantly a human the donkey can respect while having no fear. A human trainer using a creative and innovative plan to make things interesting.  Donkeys get bored much faster than the horse and their ability to learn is different from the horse or mule (1/2 horse 1/2 donkey.”

How do donkeys learn different from the horse? 

“Donkeys must be tamed before teaching them any task; riding, leading, picking up the hoof, taking a walk on the lead, and more.  Horses prefer this method too!  Please be patient and remember you are on Donkey Time “kinda like living in a vacation place like Hawaii life is easy and slow in Donkey Time.”

ROCKETMANDONKEYTIME

Donkeys being trained successfully require a safe, fair, loving home where they feel their human partner is the leader of their herd.  Donkeys have a very difficult time learning from a stranger or doing anything for a stranger without their human leader helping.

This slideshow requires JavaScript.

People make jokes all the time to me about donkeys “oh your little or big ass.  “ I am quick to reply Ass is reserved for the two legged human, I think it don’t say it and yes I am a donkey whisperer for humans too.  :)

Learning how to train a donkey really helps with the humans in our life that can be an ass as it requires patience, love, boundaries and understanding.  I like to say give everyone the three-second rule to correct the behavior in a fair and practical way no abuse, this works on humans who step over boundaries too. 

What is the three-second rule?

Wait for the animal to make a mistake and correct the mistake within three seconds without abuse but always staying safe as safety is number one.  If we wait more than three seconds the animal has forgot what they did wrong and can not learn the correct behavior.  People need boundaries too, I  have learned it is best to make a correction with another human within three seconds not wait six months or even a year to tell another person about our personal boundary.

Donkeys are visual learners:

If you bring a new donkey into your farm let them have time to soak, stand back and watch you clean the feet of your honor equine, ride them, brush them, you get the picture.  Donkeys learn by standing back and watching our Mammoth donkey RIo learned to open the door simply by watching me and my husband open the door and shut the barn door.  Use this training tool to your advantage.

Taming a new donkey:

I am a home study student of Parelli  I always start out with the friendly game, rope halter, carrot stick, no abuse.  I place the new donkey in a small space, talk calmly to the donkey, look to see if the donkey will take a piece of apple or carrot.  A donkey scared to death will not eat and this is a warning sign to proceed with caution in taming this donkey remember to keep your face away from their hips, rear as donkeys can kick side ways like a cow.  If the donkey will not catch me I wait, sit down read a book and eventually the introverted donkey will come up to me. After I have established that I am no threat to the donkey then I can move on to the next step.

With the rope haler on I begin by saying whoa in a small space, rub their face, try to stay calm and keep my emotions in neutral, tie them up so they cannot move to start this taming as most not all donkeys can be introverted; and then all of a sudden they can get aggressive when scared i.e., kicking, striking or running off with the human.

Donkeys are very physical equine it is important to remember any kind of equine (horse, donkey or mule) can be dangerous you must take responsibility for your actions.  I have learned that most tamed donkeys want their loving time first, scratching, rubbing, talking to them and they love a healthy treat i.e., 1/2 green apple a couple of pieces of carrot.  Learn Parelli and study the left brain introvert and right brain introvert as this program will explain the psychology of the equine in great detail.  Mr. Parelli started out with a mule so he truly understands the patience, consistency, time and all that is needed to be successful with donkeys, mules and of course horses!  I personally am very grateful for the Parelli home study and I am sure all equine (donkeys, horses, mules) are grateful too as I have seen and heard of some very horrific training techniques for donkeys, mules and horses.

Humans are natural predators

All equine can sense who is a good human and who is a bad human (abuse and natural techniques) when the donkey, horse or mule is afraid they do whatever it takes to stay safe.  I highly suggest any person who is new to training donkeys, mules and horses pick a tamed, not abused equine first. Remember all equine need a buddy to live with for their health and safety and donkeys are most happy when living with another donkey and horses are most happy when living with another horse.

Why Do I Love Donkeys and Mules?

Donkeys do not freak out or go right brain on adrenalin very often as they are seriously into counting every calorie, donkeys have a high self-preservation skill.  Donkeys can think all of the time no need to get in a hurry as they understand mistakes happen when they get into a hurry.

Donkeys are usually “not always”  introverted thus people call them stubborn (some horses and ponies act this way with boring work and no motivation, inspiration opportunities) they stop moving their feet, sometimes they just lay down.  The need for a great leader is evident in these equine!

The key to success in training is a human who wants to be a partner to the equine and a human partner who has empathy and works hard to inspire and connect with strong safety boundaries. A human who will SLOW down and wait another day for training,wanting the relationship to blossom more than teaching the task.   As Parelli says “when you take off the halter all you get is the truth” if your equine leaves you or will not come in to you this is a sign of a relationship problem. 

Why do I love horses?

melodlilysept2013

“Horses are majestic and fast, my  horse Miss Lily is a quarter horse but she has some speed in her kinda like a sports car, not for everyone but exactly what I needed to get my life back on track she is a natural leader and if she was a wild horse she would fight to the death to stay on top.”

This is her personality and well it’s mine we are truly mirrored together and I understand her needing to move her feet and run and buck get the endorphins pumping as this is my personality too. Miss Lily is a lot of horse and she is always pushing the boundaries and then finally she can stop and think and go to work, in the wrong owners hands she could become a very dangerous horse. 

When I think back to all the abuse I have seen of donkeys, horses and mules it makes me want to cry! 

Most donkeys are thrown in a pasture with a horse as a pasture mate and well that’s it. “I say you are missing out”  Donkeys are good for us humans who work too much, speed around too fast in life as they make us slow down,  Donkeys help us humans live on Donkey Time, enjoy the moment GOD has placed in our life as we will never have this moment again.  The donkey, horse and mule is a healer and is used for post traumatic stress, physical therapy, and emotional wholeness. 

melodyridingrionobitage7

Short training Video of Rio & Melody - before the semi truck accident

Please remember to keep your training sessions short, drilling does not work with equine especially the donkey as they will stop trying.  Always teach both sides (right and left) of the equine (horse, donkey & Mule) and remember just like people one side is easier than the other.  Try to set the equine up for success so if you are training something new don’t drill and go back to something the equine has mastered and end the training session with the equine succeeding never the opposite.

Please consider another way to train your equine!  Stop getting disturbed by your training with your equine break the negative cycle and provide the equine with a successful training class, set them up for success. You chsoe the equine they did not choose you, you are the smart human, you can do this!

Remember to end the short training session (no more than fifteen to twenty minutes per task) with play time something the donkey, mule or horse has mastered and enjoys.  A small bite of green grass helps on the way back to the barn, trailer, stall etc as you are connecting with your donkey.  I know you are saying they have feed in the barn.  Yes, but the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and this is an opportunity for you to do something your equine wants to do, get a few bites of green grass just a few minutes of your time really makes the relationship stronger.  Donkeys demand a connection to learn and horses dream of this kind of training.

Donkeys are not horses with long ears

RocketMan2012age18

Please don’t try to make them into something they are not “old cowboy” training does not work for donkeys.   It is much easier to attract a positive result with honey than vinegar and this works with people too; family, business, work, neighbors, give it a try to remember to be grateful for everything in your life and be grateful for everything Jesus Christ has given you to steward over.  Life is a gift and we must cherish each and every moment.

Personalities

Just like people have personalities equine (donkey, mule & horse) have horsenalities as Parelli says “pick your equine carefully”.  Another important consideration is taking your donkey for walks of grazing allowing them to take a bite here and their with you walking next to them.

Dogs and Donkeys

Please remember Donkeys hate dogs instinctively dogs are predators plan to make the training successful when de-senstizing them don’t let the dog chase at your equine ever.  Your carrot stick from Parelli works great to keep the dog in their space if they move in too close to the equine as it just takes one kick and the dog is dead, no do over.

Please remember with GOD driving your life in Jesus Christ name your opportunities are infinity!  Be careful what you think, because your thoughts run your life.  Proverbs 4:23 NIV

GOD bless you and your family two and four-legged!

Melody

http://wwwyouversion.com/mobile

http://www.donkeywhisperer.com

https://www.facebook.com/Donkeywhisperer

 

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Why Do People Call Donkeys Ass?


If you own a donkey you understand the difference between a donkey and a horse for sure!  Perhaps you are considering a donkey? Please understand donkeys & mules (half horse and half donkey) require health just like the horse; shelter, clean mold free low sugar hay, feet trimmed, teeth, veterinarian and one more thing donkeys are easy keepers.

Select Wikpedia What is the meaning behind Ass  to read more.

What is an easy keeper?

Donkeys are always easy keepers and require low sugar (below 10% NO alfalfa hay) shots, clean water, love, exercise, training, rubs, talked to and shelter whew! Donkeys CAN NOT stay healthy in big pastures full of green grass as this causes laminitis (sugar diabetes in humans) interesting article by Pete Ramey http://www.hoofrehab.com/HORP-061200-LAMINITIS.pdf

Donkeys were created by GOD and to prove it GOD placed a cross on their back, the cross is easy to see in light-colored donkeys and difficult to see in the dark-colored donkeys.  Donkeys began their existence in the desert eating very little a bite here and there and of course donkeys have those magnificent ears to alert them early to predators for survival of their species.  Please remember if you commit to a donkey you really should commit to two donkeys as donkeys are happier in every way when living with another donkey.  It is my opinion the mini donkey is the least amount of money for purchasing and care; hay, vet, clean up and much easier to train as they are miniature donkeys physically easier manage.   I highly suggest Parelli http://www.parellinaturalhorsetraining.com  to learn how to train a donkey as there are very few donkey trainers in the world so home study is your best option.   I offer free support at my website http://www.donkeywhisperer.com.

Both of our donkeys are Johns; geldings (Johns are for gelded mules only) Rio (mammoth) and Rocket Man (mini) or in horse language (gelding cannot reproduce) and both of them are introverted and afraid of new things.  Not all donkeys are afraid of new things and gelding are usually easier than jacks (stallion) in horse world.  Jennies (mares horse world) can be more difficult as they can reproduce so please remember this.  My training is completely different for my donkeys than for my horse (mare) as she is extremely fast and extroverted I must match her personality with my timing and plan of action to stay safe and keep her as a model equine with respect for humans. Interesting thought; some ponies can act like donkeys more whoa than go and will not move their feet.

If you open your home, heart and bank account to a couple of donkeys (the only animal in the bible GOD gave the ability to talk) be prepared for the donkey bug as donkeys are that special!   This applies when donkeys are lucky enough to be cared for by a human who treats them with clear black and white (no gray) leadership, love, respect and no abuse of any kind.  “On the other hand if the human is a human Ass the donkeys will not be loving and friendly as they are into self-preservation first and most importantly”, just like you or I would be if we were being abused by a human Ass.

I say “Ass is saved for the human and used when needed only by the human’s ability to care for any living thing including the donkey.”   Thus I wear my shirt saying “I am the ass whisperer whenever I am dealing with humans as it creates laughter, lightens everyone up.  I never call the donkey an Ass as they are the sweetest loving equine (horse, donkey, mule) I have ever encountered in my entire life UNLESS the human Ass has abused the donkey.  When encountering a donkey that has been subjected to the human Ass abuse it is very difficult to heal/train the abused donkey and sometimes not possible.  Sadly now the donkey that has been abused is scared and can become very dangerous as donkeys are into self-preservation the same as you or I would be if treated inhumanly.

Taming a new donkey:

I use Parelli “friendly game”, rope halter, carrot stick, no abuse put the donkey in a small space, talk calmly to the donkey, keep your face away from their hips, rear as donkeys can kick sideways like a cow.  I begin by saying whoa in a small space, rub their face, tie them up so they cannot move to start this taming as most not all donkeys can be introverted standing still and scared to death or can get aggressive when scared. Donkeys are very physical equine it is important to remember any kind of equine (horse, donkey or mule) can be dangerous you must take responsibility for your actions.  I have learned that most tamed donkeys want their loving time first, scratching, rubbing, talking to them and they love a healthy treat i.e., 1/2 green apple a couple of pieces of carrot.  Learn parelli as they explain the psychology of the equine and Parelli started out with a mule so he truly understands the patience, consistency and all that is needed to be successful with donkeys and for Mr. Parelli & Mrs. Parelli I am grateful and I am sure all the donkeys that get this training are grateful as I have seen and heard of some very horrific training techniques for donkeys, mules and horses.

Why did I name my farm and website the Donkey Whisperer in lieu of Ass Farm etc.?

GOD in Jesus precious name gave me the idea and the domain name was available at just the correct time for me and to GOD I am truly grateful.  I want to help all the equine and the humans live a life of promises as GOD has written in the bible.  While the world is in turmoil GOD is holding his children close to him and GOD is making a way for his children to smile in the middle of the storm. GOD has brought smiles, peace, purpose, safety, love, success to our lives as we honor GOD in Jesus precious name over and over every day.  When you say the simple prayer “Jesus come into my life I make you my Lord and Savior” we believe GOD will change everything in your mind, body, spirit and life.  GOD never said life would be easy here on earth but he did say he will never forsake us or leave us as we are his children.

Summary:

Save the word ASS for the human and use as needed (just think it don’t say it) I promise it will help put a smile on your face, please call the donkey a “DONKEY”. Smile

GOD bless you and your family two and four legs!

Melody

http://www.donkeywhisperer.com

 

Tags: , , , , ,

 
Follow

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 2,069 other followers

%d bloggers like this: