Friends of the Donkey Whisperer Farm,
For those of you who are new to my blog I want to say thank you for reading and for those who have been following my journey in this thing called life since 2010, I really appreciate each and every one of you.
My health update:
I continue to suffer from severe nerve damage in my hips, back and feet suffer from spasms in my ribs still, back pain wakes me up every morning it is never quiet, pain sucks and is most likely not going away as last spring marked four years since the semi-truck accident. Select GOD created a miracle for me to read all about it. I no longer go to physical therapy (3 years I attended) as each day is physical therapy living on our farm. Massage therapy is a need not a want and I go once a week this helps tremendously as does our hot tub. My grandma who is ninety-four constantly says to me “You have bitten off too much again, dear Melody”, my answer is always the same; “If I do not keep moving, I fear the pain will force me to a wheel chair.” Every day is a challenge my husband and I continue to believe that GOD in Jesus Christ name will take this pain away and one day I will indeed be pain-free. I have not been pain-free since April 12th, 2010.
Building our farm in Sequim, WA has been amazing and most difficult, smiles and tears side-by-side
Trying to get contractors to show up and do a good job is not easy. Trusting a contractor to do the job correctly and then having to fire them when they lie or they are not competent in the work is very stressful and it costs more money. Every project we have started except a few has been beyond stressful. Seems GOD keeps us on our knees for each and every favor and when things do not go right I am honestly going to say I have lost my peace. I try so hard to not lose my peace but when people lie and steal from us and we have a very small income coming in to create this dream it is hard to not get upset. I am very grateful to have Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior as I can not navigate this thing called life alone.
Living In Our 29ft 5th Wheel
We have been living in our 5th wheel since June 1st, 2014. I can honestly say we do not need much in life to enjoy life but I do miss my king size bed. :) We have two people who are serious about the house/farm for sale in Kingston, WA. Select Turn-key Equestrian Dream, Kingston, WA Soon this beautiful farm will sell and we will start to build our last home a one story home as we are in our fifties now and I must plan for arthritis to get worse as I age. I dream of the day we get to turn the key and walk into our home, I know GOD is fateful but waiting is one of the most hardest things to do when we have endured so much hardship for so long. Today marks four and half years since our life was turned upside down by the semi-truck accident and I can honestly say it has seemed like ten years.
I have been with my hubby Scott for almost twenty-two years now, time does fly! I do believe that living in our twenty-nine foot fifth wheel with three dogs, hubby, and my two rescue cats is easy on the one had as cleaning the 5th wheel takes five minutes when we both go to work together. I always think the best first and work on keeping my mind on the payoff when things are tough. I will never again complain about cleaning my house as I miss my things, I miss having a place for everything and so we wait on GOD to sell the house in Kingston, WA. Our marriage is strong, stronger than before the car accident as we never take one another for granted. This does not mean we do not disagree it simply means we do not hold a grudge and move on. We trust GOD to sell the house in his time and for whatever reason the farm has not sold yet, soon I feel it will sell. Money, space, trust, friendship, love is all part of a good marriage along with planning dreams together. My husband Scott and I plan each and everything we can and when GOD changes our plans we say thank you Jesus even when it hurts to wait or have our plans changed. We work as a team and this is truly the key to a great marriage. My husband Scott is indeed my soul mate, my best friend first and my husband second and we are similar in many way but different in how we react to stress. I am an extrovert and he is an introvert, I think most marriages end up this way as we are attracted and need what the other has. My hubby Scott put so many fence posts in he had hernia surgery last month and this was very stressful, thank you Jesus he is recovering fast and had very little pain.
My Life After GOD Saved Me From Death
I will never, never be the same as before the semi-truck accident not physically as I am forever physically disabled with three huge screws in my pelvis. But also emotionally and mentally. I find myself wanting things done instantly as I am fifty-four now and I lost three years of my life. I can ride a little but not very long as my ribs spasm and my lower back hurts. I still have not attempted to canter and oh how I miss cantering on my horse, we use to go for four-hour trail rides three times a week I do not know if I will ever get to go for a trail ride again. Still GOD is great as I can ride on the twenty acres, I slide the lazy suzan door around and walk my horse and Mammoth donkey up to the steps and go ride. No hauling anywhere just go ride. I have learned to enjoy every second of every day as much as possible and never to take anything or anyone who is good to me and my family two and four-legged for granted as these people are rare in our most fragile and stressed world.
Repeat, Repeat and Repeat
Hot Air Balloons
Flew over our farm low and scared Rio our mammoth donkey so bad he would not come out of the barn for over three hours. My horses could have run through the fence if I did not keep them calm. Shortly after this low flying loud fire balloons with tourist taking photos of our little farm my horse Miss Lily got the hives and she has had them way to long so if you pray, pray for Miss Lily to get healthy again please. The immune system in equine is just like us people fragile and for her stress triggers hives, this is causing me stress as I am trying so hard to get her well. I sent an e-mail to the hot-air balloon company and asked them to please never fly low over our our farm again and the owner was very compliant and seemed to understand the fear the balloons caused our farm equine.
Our three dogs are getting old and it is hard to watch my female Jewel limp and ache so bad as I know one day I will have to bury her under the pear tree. Seems dogs do not live long enough, they are so special. All are happy and seem to not mind having to sleep on a very small bed they just want to be with me and my husband and well I think they would be ok living in the car with us. We are a family two and four-legged, our bond is so tight. Still when I leave for fifteen minutes the dogs are scared as they all have anxiety I will not return as the semi-truck accident is still on their mind. They worry I will not come home again each time I step out the door and no matter what I do they seem to not forget that life is fragile and their mom may not come home again. Animal trainers say animals live in the moment I say animals can get PTSD as my dogs have it.
My mind feels like I am in my forties but my body feels like it is one hundred most days, I can’t bend, twist, dance or spin any more. My suggestion to anyone living with any kind of disability and pain is to keep getting up. Each day is a new day, today may be the day GOD brings a break-thru and the pain and suffering may go away physical or emotional. I recently took a Facebook test on your age and my age came out to thirty-three and yet I am trapped in a fifty-four year old broken body. Arthritis in every bone that broke and lot’s broke. Neuropathy in my feet and yet GOD places a huge smile on my face each and every day as I could have died.
Rio the mammoth donkey and Melody bitless riding
New Equine On Our Farm
We finally were able to bring home Oboe and Tuba if you read my blog way back to 2010 you will see I have been trying to get them home since 2008. Again I must say never give up and trust GOD for everything he planted the dreams in your heart. Both Oboe and Tuba have no paper-work and were very much in need of training and a human to touch them and love them each and every day. We also went looking for one mini donkey companion for Rocket Man our mini that is twenty now and my hubby let me bring home two mini’s Roy and Maximus. Maximus is a huge extrovert and a huge challenge and Roy is in my pocket after just a week of loving and my training plan. Roy was very sad when we met him and needed a special human to love him. God gave us Roy he is very special! A new horse, I have a new project mare named Miss Trophy and she is a black gorgeous saddlebred mare, she is very beautiful but needs time to trust me and learn to have the social skills needed to live in a domesticated world. One day I will learn dressage with this horse as she has a long neck and can stretch her long legs out with her small chest. Miss Lily my quarter horse is a true quarter horse and is built for speed and trails, she did do pretty good in dressage but this is not what she was bred to do. Lily and Trophy are now best friends forever and my horse is herd bound to the needs of an emotional horse crying for her. Still I am riding Miss Lily and she is doing much better at the short separation times. Both get exercise for a half hour or so that I go for a ride. Miss Lily lived with Rio and Rocket Man for seven years before we moved to our new farm in Sequim, WA. Now Rio lives with Oboe and Tuba and Lily must not only protect herself but Miss Trophy.
2014 GOD Opened Donkey Whisperer Farm, LLC
A world-wide virtual custom coaching, consulting and training of owners of horses, mules and donkeys. I teach people all over the world from my computer using Skype, videos and more. I have been able to travel to France, Norway and all over the USA without leaving my living room. When our home is completed I will have classes here on the farm with students from all over the world I am so excited to see this fruit GOD planted in my mind appear. In Feb of 2014 I traveled by myself to Florida from Washington with back and hip pain and received my certification for Parelli’s Horseanlity/Humanality course a huge achievement as traveling and sitting for long periods of time is most difficult for me. It was a huge investment for my business and personal growth. As understanding my personality, my families and students is vital to my success. If you get a chance to take this class I highly recommend it and if you can’t afford it please hire me Select Donkey Whisperer Farm, LLC our store. I pay Key-bank a fee to manage world-wide credit cards for my world-wide students.
GOD bless you and your family two and four-legged!